"I had come unknowing into what Burley would have called the 'membership' of my life."
I am fascinated by the family dynamics in Hannah Coulter.
I strongly desire this type of closeness and "membership"
but it has not been my fate.
In one generation, I have seen this type of membership of community and family disappear.
Have you stumbled into the "membership" in your life?
Do you still find that the extended family is alive and well?
How has the family changed since the 1940's?
How has it stayed the same?
Another thing I noticed in Hannah's family was their silence.
When Virgil is missing, they do not speak of their fears.
They do not speak with one another of their pain and sadness and anger.
Because this is so different from how our family dealt with our grief,
I found it heavy and sad.
I would burst if I could not say I was afraid.
Hannah's family would not have liked my chatty self.
What do you think?